Supervised visitation is a court-ordered requirement for non-custodial parents. If a parent without custody is granted supervised visitation rights, there usually needs to be a third party present during the visitation time. Visitation between a parent and their child is often the result of a messy divorce, custody battle, separation, or former substance abuse or criminal activity. The third party is a requirement for both supervision and to relieve any tension or negativity that would be a result of both parents being present during the visit. A safe and friendly environment and a trusted third party supervisor are two critically important factors for a parent and child to bond and share memories together during visitations.
Parents who are new to supervised visitation or are dealing with issues surrounding the visits can follow some of the ideas below that both parents can use to make the whole experience a little smoother:
- Be flexible with scheduling the visitations.
- If parents cannot work together or communicate effectively with one another, try finding a neutral party who can facilitate scheduling or other conversations about the child.
- If possible, maintain open communication with the child about visitation with the other parent.
- Do not speak negatively about the other parent in front of the child or mutual friends or family members.
Third-party supervisors should be unbiased and neutral for the sake of the parents and the children. The risk of using a family member, friend, or acquaintance as a supervisor for visitation, is that they may be untruthful about activities that happened during the visitation, the parent’s behavior, how the child reacted to the parent or may conceal information. Further, an unreliable third party could drop the child off and leave or stay for only part of the visit. This could lead to a dangerous situation for the child or leave the non-custodial parent vulnerable to termination of visitation rights. Any untruthful negative information or news that the non-custodial parent was left alone with the child could result in consequences for the parents and the child.
The benefit of having a neutral, third party, who is provided by a private investigation firm is that they will remain with the parent and child for the entire visit, while also allowing the parent and child time to bond with one another. In other words, a reliable third party will be there to supervise, but will not interfere with the parent and child’s bonding and will not distract the child, taking away time from the parent. This could be common with a supervisor who is a close friend or family member. For non-custodial parents who get visitation rights, supervised visitation is the only time they get to spend with their children, and it should not be interrupted or put in jeopardy because of supervisor issues. Reliable supervisors can give both parents the peace of mind that their child is safe and gets to spend quality time with their mother or father.
For a non-custodial parent, going through the court system and the process of getting granted supervised visitation rights can be overwhelming and exhausting. Some stress can be eliminated by keeping these tips in mind:
- Remember that no matter what has happened, you are still your child’s parent;
- Let the focus be on your child, and try to put other distractions out of your mind during the visit;
- Avoid any temptation to bad mouth anyone, talk about legal issues, or talk about issues with the other parent;
- If it has been a long time since you have seen your son or daughter, remind them of your favorite memories you have with them to ease into the visit;
- Find activities that you and your child can do together like drawing, reading, or playing a board game;
- Remind your child that you love them no matter what and you cherish your time spent with them.
Having a reliable, clean, and friendly environment is also very important for supervised visitation. A good environment will allow the child to feel comfortable and will allow the parent to feel at ease when spending time with his or her child. For those who live in chaotic homes, or unsafe areas, it may be difficult finding the right environment for supervised visitation. This could lead to unnecessary conflict between parents. Advanced Investigations gives parents and children a safe, friendly environment and free parking access for parents who are visiting. Most of all, a safe, neutral environment that can be used for visitation, and exchanges between parents could eliminate some of the stress that parents face during custody battles, separations, and other issues.