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  • Dec 12 / 2014
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Catching a Cheater, Infidelity Surveillance, Noticing the Signs, Private Investigation

6 Ways to Identify a Social Media Affair


Online communication has become a vital part of our social media lives since the evolution of text messaging, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Developing relationships over social media has become so common that over the past 5 years, divorce attorneys have experienced a significant increase in the use of social media networking as evidence in their cases. But why do social media affairs happen so frequently? And what can we do to stop them from interfering with our existing relationships?


1. Your Spouse is More Committed to Checking Their Online Accounts Than Ever Before

Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram have granted us with the power to have instant gratification. With the ability to constantly check in with people all over the world, it becomes easy to obsess over who may be peeking into our lives. If your spouse is consistently checking in on his/her social media accounts, interacting with specific “friends” or “followers,” it may be a sign that your spouse is communicating with someone that they don’t want you to know about. Additionally, communication through social media is untraceable on phone bills, making it easier for cheating spouses to maintain relationships without the fear of being found out.

2. Your Spouse Has a Strict Password-Protected Computer, Tablet, or Smartphone

Trust and transparency are essential components to any relationship. If your spouse is constantly password-protecting their devices, it is likely that they are restricting you from access to their hidden social media lives. Spouses who have experienced social media affairs are driven by the illusion of secrecy. If your spouse or lover is not willing to let you handle their devices, this is a huge indication that there may be a problem.

3. Your Spouse Maintains a Friendly Online-Only Relationship

One major reason why social media affairs have become so common is the appeal of anonymity. With the use of e-mail, text messages, and communication apps, communication has altered in ways that make it easy for us to live secret lives. Online-only affairs are extremely dangerous to existing relationships because of the reality that it is much easier to communicate online than face-to-face. If your spouse claims to be maintaining an online relationship, they may be having an emotional affair rather than a physical one.

4. Your Spouse Has Facebook Friends, or Followers That You Are Unfamiliar With

In a relationship, it is likely that you are aware of your significant other’s close friends, family members, or acquaintances. If your spouse sporadically gains Facebook Friends or “followers” that you are unfamiliar with, this could be a sign that your spouse is using their online presence to receive attention you may not approve of.

5. Your Spouse Regularly Deletes His/Her Internet, Phone Call, or Text History

If your spouse is obsessively on his/her computer, phone, or tablet, and regularly deletes website or text history, it is likely that they are hiding something. Most of us, who are regularly on our devices, normally do not think twice about deleting our recent conversations; therefore, a huge indicator of an unfaithful spouse is when he/she is significantly aware of any information that could indicate infidelity. Look out for apps like CATE (Call and Text Eraser App) that allows users to delete their history with one click.

6. Your Spouse Uses Sneaky Phone and Messaging Apps 

Apps like Kik, WhatsApp, Viber, make phone calls and text messaging easy for unfaithful spouses; however, sneakier apps like Slydial and Tiger Text make it difficult to detect exactly who your partner is contacting. Look out for Slydial, that allows users to directly access a contact’s voice mailbox without having the phone even ring, and Tiger Text that allows users to send text messages with a deletion timer. Your spouse using sneaky apps on their smartphones or tablet is a major red flag, and further investigation is warranted.

  • Dec 12 / 2014
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Catching a Cheater, Infidelity Surveillance, Noticing the Signs, Private Investigation

7 Financial Signs Your Spouse is Cheating on You


1. Cash Withdrawals are More Frequent 

Increased cash withdrawal could be a sign that your spouse is avoiding leaving a paper trail of their expenses. If your spouse is making excessive cash withdrawals close to their home or office, this could be a sign that they are spending money in places that they do not wish to be traced back to.

2. Online Banking Passwords Have Been Changed

Financial transparency in a relationship is often a sign of trust. If your spouse suddenly changes passwords to online banking accounts that you had previously had access to, you have reason to further investigate their motives.

3. Increased Gas Expenses and Transactions in New Neighborhoods

Excessive driving, or sudden increased gas fill-ups should raise concern. An effective way to investigate your spouse’s recent driving activity is to examine the locations of their gas fill-ups, as well as their toll payments. If you notice that your spouse is spending money in unfamiliar neighborhoods, it is more than likely that they are having an affair.

4. New Junk Mail/Bank Statements Arrive at Home

If you  notice that you’re suddenly receiving mail from unfamiliar credit card companies, this could be a sign that your spouse has opened new, separate accounts. Additionally, if your spouse suddenly takes control of sorting through mail, this could also be a sign that they are monitoring incoming bills that they don’t want you to see.

5. Your Spouse Claims to Be Working Longer House With No Increased Income

Hourly workers would be getting paid over-time for their extra hours, and salaried workers are also entitled to monetary reward. If your spouse uses the common excuse that they are working late or at odd hours, taking a look at their paycheck could give you insight to the validity of their claims.

6. Expenses on Household Necessities Get Stricter

A spouse suddenly becoming stricter about household finances could be a sign that they are hiding their own spending habits. Additionally, if your partner begins to become increasingly involved in household finances, you should begin to examine their recent spending habits and examine any unusual circumstances. A spouse having an affair would be cautious in spending their money due to their increased spending habits.

7. Finding Receipts for Items You Never See

If you find that your spouse has receipts for restaurants, taxi cabs, or items that never make it into your home, this could be a major indicator of an affair. Though your spouse may hide their trail of expenses by paying in cash, searching for receipts is an effective way of monitoring how their money is being spent.

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