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  • Dec 12 / 2014
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6 Ways to Identify a Social Media Affair


Online communication has become a vital part of our social media lives since the evolution of text messaging, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Developing relationships over social media has become so common that over the past 5 years, divorce attorneys have experienced a significant increase in the use of social media networking as evidence in their cases. But why do social media affairs happen so frequently? And what can we do to stop them from interfering with our existing relationships?


1. Your Spouse is More Committed to Checking Their Online Accounts Than Ever Before

Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram have granted us with the power to have instant gratification. With the ability to constantly check in with people all over the world, it becomes easy to obsess over who may be peeking into our lives. If your spouse is consistently checking in on his/her social media accounts, interacting with specific “friends” or “followers,” it may be a sign that your spouse is communicating with someone that they don’t want you to know about. Additionally, communication through social media is untraceable on phone bills, making it easier for cheating spouses to maintain relationships without the fear of being found out.

2. Your Spouse Has a Strict Password-Protected Computer, Tablet, or Smartphone

Trust and transparency are essential components to any relationship. If your spouse is constantly password-protecting their devices, it is likely that they are restricting you from access to their hidden social media lives. Spouses who have experienced social media affairs are driven by the illusion of secrecy. If your spouse or lover is not willing to let you handle their devices, this is a huge indication that there may be a problem.

3. Your Spouse Maintains a Friendly Online-Only Relationship

One major reason why social media affairs have become so common is the appeal of anonymity. With the use of e-mail, text messages, and communication apps, communication has altered in ways that make it easy for us to live secret lives. Online-only affairs are extremely dangerous to existing relationships because of the reality that it is much easier to communicate online than face-to-face. If your spouse claims to be maintaining an online relationship, they may be having an emotional affair rather than a physical one.

4. Your Spouse Has Facebook Friends, or Followers That You Are Unfamiliar With

In a relationship, it is likely that you are aware of your significant other’s close friends, family members, or acquaintances. If your spouse sporadically gains Facebook Friends or “followers” that you are unfamiliar with, this could be a sign that your spouse is using their online presence to receive attention you may not approve of.

5. Your Spouse Regularly Deletes His/Her Internet, Phone Call, or Text History

If your spouse is obsessively on his/her computer, phone, or tablet, and regularly deletes website or text history, it is likely that they are hiding something. Most of us, who are regularly on our devices, normally do not think twice about deleting our recent conversations; therefore, a huge indicator of an unfaithful spouse is when he/she is significantly aware of any information that could indicate infidelity. Look out for apps like CATE (Call and Text Eraser App) that allows users to delete their history with one click.

6. Your Spouse Uses Sneaky Phone and Messaging Apps 

Apps like Kik, WhatsApp, Viber, make phone calls and text messaging easy for unfaithful spouses; however, sneakier apps like Slydial and Tiger Text make it difficult to detect exactly who your partner is contacting. Look out for Slydial, that allows users to directly access a contact’s voice mailbox without having the phone even ring, and Tiger Text that allows users to send text messages with a deletion timer. Your spouse using sneaky apps on their smartphones or tablet is a major red flag, and further investigation is warranted.

  • Dec 12 / 2014
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7 Financial Signs Your Spouse is Cheating on You


1. Cash Withdrawals are More Frequent 

Increased cash withdrawal could be a sign that your spouse is avoiding leaving a paper trail of their expenses. If your spouse is making excessive cash withdrawals close to their home or office, this could be a sign that they are spending money in places that they do not wish to be traced back to.

2. Online Banking Passwords Have Been Changed

Financial transparency in a relationship is often a sign of trust. If your spouse suddenly changes passwords to online banking accounts that you had previously had access to, you have reason to further investigate their motives.

3. Increased Gas Expenses and Transactions in New Neighborhoods

Excessive driving, or sudden increased gas fill-ups should raise concern. An effective way to investigate your spouse’s recent driving activity is to examine the locations of their gas fill-ups, as well as their toll payments. If you notice that your spouse is spending money in unfamiliar neighborhoods, it is more than likely that they are having an affair.

4. New Junk Mail/Bank Statements Arrive at Home

If you  notice that you’re suddenly receiving mail from unfamiliar credit card companies, this could be a sign that your spouse has opened new, separate accounts. Additionally, if your spouse suddenly takes control of sorting through mail, this could also be a sign that they are monitoring incoming bills that they don’t want you to see.

5. Your Spouse Claims to Be Working Longer House With No Increased Income

Hourly workers would be getting paid over-time for their extra hours, and salaried workers are also entitled to monetary reward. If your spouse uses the common excuse that they are working late or at odd hours, taking a look at their paycheck could give you insight to the validity of their claims.

6. Expenses on Household Necessities Get Stricter

A spouse suddenly becoming stricter about household finances could be a sign that they are hiding their own spending habits. Additionally, if your partner begins to become increasingly involved in household finances, you should begin to examine their recent spending habits and examine any unusual circumstances. A spouse having an affair would be cautious in spending their money due to their increased spending habits.

7. Finding Receipts for Items You Never See

If you find that your spouse has receipts for restaurants, taxi cabs, or items that never make it into your home, this could be a major indicator of an affair. Though your spouse may hide their trail of expenses by paying in cash, searching for receipts is an effective way of monitoring how their money is being spent.

  • Sep 30 / 2014
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Infidelity Among Women On The Rise

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According to the National Opinion Research Center’s General Social Survey, over the past two decades, the percentage of women having affairs has increased by almost 40%. The number of men admitting to extramarital affairs has held constant at 21 percent. So why is this gender gap closing? There are two main arguments surrounding this topic, one of these arguments being the increase in economic independence in women. Many women these days have higher job titles and play important roles within the work force. Due to this, they are holding their own when it comes to financial aspects of the home and marriage. With this also comes the idea that women may be more willing to engage in an extramarital affair due to the fact that they will have less of a financial hit if it ever came down to a divorce. They are also more likely to sufficiently support themselves on their own after the divorce making the need for their partner less present if the passion and connection is gone at that point. Another main argument is the technology that has arisen over the recent years. Many people argue that since we rely on technology and more so social media, that it is making infidelity that much easier. Since Facebook and other social media accounts, you do not have to leave your couch to reconnect with old friends or meet a new love interest. While the new technology is great, it is also very dangerous at times and can be detrimental to a person’s relationship. While the way that we meet new people has changed, infidelity remains a fact, perhaps even to a higher extent in modern relationships. A person can be engaging in a relationship over the phone or on the computer without even meeting the individual in person. With this comes the obvious increase in infidelity that we have been seeing. It used to be very rare that a man would hire a private investigator to catch his cheating wife, but it has become much more common. If you are having some suspicions about your wife and want to get answers about what they have been up to, don’t hesitate. You deserve answers too!

  • Mar 26 / 2014
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How do cheaters deal with Valentine’s Day?
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How Do Cheaters Deal With Valentine’s Day?

So, how does someone having an affair manage to please both individuals without raising any suspicion? They can’t be in two places at once, so who gets priority? In a poll that was done with more than 2,000 married men, seventy-nine percent planned to spend Feb. 13 with their mistress. (Noel Biderman, founder of AshleyMadison.com). When asked where these men were planning to go with their mistress on this day, 47% said a hotel, 33% said that they were planning on going to a neighboring city or town, 11% said that they were going to the office, and 9% said that they would stay home because their spouse was going to be away. If you think that your spouse may be cheating, this is the perfect time to try to find out. Where is your spouse planning on being on February 13th; the gym, staying late at work? Find out! Call us today at (203) 745-4455

  • Mar 26 / 2014
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How Can Valentine’s Day Help Me Find Out If My Spouse Is Cheating?

Have you been wondering what your spouse has really been up to the last few months? Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to get some more information to ease your curiosity. Around Valentine’s Day, make sure that you are checking your bank accounts. See if you find any unexplained charges, or make note of the charges that are there. If you don’t find reasoning for where the money went, you may have come across a red flag. If your spouse doesn’t tend to use a credit card, don’t worry, there still can be a paper trail. Check your spouse’s clothing; pockets, jackets, wallets, etc. Look for receipts for possible gifts. If you don’t receive these gifts on Valentine’s Day, then you might want to call us to find out who is! Not only should you look for receipts, you should look in unpredicted places around the house, the car, and the garage for hidden gifts. Call us at (203) 745-4455 if you don’t receive the gifts that you might have found around the house!

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